People wonder why I would consider moving to Canada, or anywhere, that would be away from family and friends.  To that I say - what family and friends??  I live with my Mom and we are very close, so I would definitely miss her.  She is almost my best friend as much as my Mom, and I like being able to chat with her about anything.  But other than her, I don't really think there is anyone I would miss in terms of spending time with them.

They never cease to amaze me, my family or friends.  I've been trying to organize something for my birthday that I share with my twin sister on the Fourth of July.  I told people a while ago to save a certain night aside as that would more than likely be when we went out and had some fun (some thing I never do any more).  I sent out electronic invites again this week to try and finalize plans.  I've not heard from 2 people yet, and my sister said she can't make most of the events that I threw out as suggestions, including the one night.  One of the people I've not heard from is my brother (and his girlfriend) and the other is another one of my so-called "friends". 

My sister claims I knew she might have other plans but I think I'd remember as I would have already tried to figure something else out.  It's OUR birthday and I was hoping we could go out and celebrate like adults.  She doesn't even think she could come over for a bbq on the 4th.  She may come to the zoo with Lyne and I but that's nothing for our birthday. 

My family always has to schedule around her, and now around her family plans.  We are pretty much told when she will be available for holiday get-togethers and have to plan accordingly.  To be honest, I'm pretty sick of it, and I think it's very unfair.  Would I be extended the same courtesy?  I mean, it was like this even when she was married, before the baby.  If I lived in the area with my g/f, would I get to dictate the schedule?  I suspect that would not be the case because somehow my plans always seem more flexible.  Perhaps if I only came in to town a couple times a year, then maybe they would have to work around MY schedule...

It can be frustrating, I know. But hang in there, sweetie, and try to not let it get you down too much. There is only so much you can control in regards to family. You made the effort to get people involved in your birthday. You've shown them that they are important enough that you want them to be part of an important date in the year (the day you became part of everyone else's life).

And if next year it's a matter of you coming in, then we'll see if they can adjust their schedules to accommodate you. For now, enjoy the event(s) and fun.

Chill out. Don't take life as seriously as you are. Not everyone is perfect which is probably how we ended up on Earth instead of somewhere more utopic. Accept people and love them or don't and ignore them. Don't judge. You're the only one who ends up sad doing that.